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What are the general guidelines for this word? Growing up, I always thought this referred to black people, and that a white person should refrain from using it. This impression was at least tacitly reinforced in NYC. But since I moved to the Midwest, I hear it a lot from white people too. And of course there's the conspiracy-theory-chic, as in "You nailed it, brother."

Now I'm wondering if there are distinctions based on specific function in a sentence. For instance, "a brother" is a black person. "Can't a brother get mythological up in this motherfucker?" is said by a black person (in this particular case, one who was desperately trying to find a post basketball career). Same with, "if a brother tell you that, it's true." So it's used somewhat abstractly. Yes? No?

White people, by contrast, use the word more particularly. When you say, "you nailed it, brother," you're addressing one person specifically. "You". In fact, it doesn't change the meaning of the sentence to rephrase as "you nailed it, my brother" so literally a single person. I mean, you can do a plural version of this but anyway. I know people use the "my brother" phrasing but it seems kind of niche.

Spanish speaking people, of course, have their own phrases in this regard and I have my doubts they say "brother." The Indian people I went to law school with were enamored of calling each other n***a because I don't fucking know why and I didn't want to ask and then finally when I did, I did not get a prepared reply, surprising given how often the question must have been asked, unless "why can't we?" was their plan, but anyway, I digress. Point is, I think it's a black and white issue mostly.

This came up for me as I was writing a bit of dialogue. Reaching for rhythm, "brother" instinctively came to mind. It wouldn't work regardless, as the characters there are women, but it did make me wonder if this is something I should know if ever I want to write fiction.
 
What are the general guidelines for this word? Growing up, I always thought this referred to black people, and that a white person should refrain from using it. This impression was at least tacitly reinforced in NYC. But since I moved to the Midwest, I hear it a lot from white people too. And of course there's the conspiracy-theory-chic, as in "You nailed it, brother."

Now I'm wondering if there are distinctions based on specific function in a sentence. For instance, "a brother" is a black person. "Can't a brother get mythological up in this motherfucker?" is said by a black person (in this particular case, one who was desperately trying to find a post basketball career). Same with, "if a brother tell you that, it's true." So it's used somewhat abstractly. Yes? No?

White people, by contrast, use the word more particularly. When you say, "you nailed it, brother," you're addressing one person specifically. "You". In fact, it doesn't change the meaning of the sentence to rephrase as "you nailed it, my brother" so literally a single person. I mean, you can do a plural version of this but anyway. I know people use the "my brother" phrasing but it seems kind of niche.

Spanish speaking people, of course, have their own phrases in this regard and I have my doubts they say "brother." The Indian people I went to law school with were enamored of calling each other n***a because I don't fucking know why and I didn't want to ask and then finally when I did, I did not get a prepared reply, surprising given how often the question must have been asked, unless "why can't we?" was their plan, but anyway, I digress. Point is, I think it's a black and white issue mostly.

This came up for me as I was writing a bit of dialogue. Reaching for rhythm, "brother" instinctively came to mind. It wouldn't work regardless, as the characters there are women, but it did make me wonder if this is something I should know if ever I want to write fiction.
1. Definitely defer to our black brothers and sisters, as this is most frequently used in their space and I want to respect that.

2. It's also a shockingly common term for conservative Christians, which makes #1 complicated.

3. I tend to use it probably more than I should, mainly because I think this type of association is generally helpful and connective. But absolutely no on "bro" or anything along those lines.
 
It's been a slang expression for comradery at least since the Depression as in "brother , can you spare a dime?" How much older and what splits in the usage there's been is more than I know but it's nothing new at all.
 
It makes think of U2

"Your skin is white, but you think you're a brother. Some days are better than others. "
 
1. Definitely defer to our black brothers and sisters, as this is most frequently used in their space and I want to respect that.

2. It's also a shockingly common term for conservative Christians, which makes #1 complicated.

3. I tend to use it probably more than I should, mainly because I think this type of association is generally helpful and connective. But absolutely no on "bro" or anything along those lines.
Bro has become race-neutral if it wasn't, like bruh. All the kids round here say that. Bro is inelegant, though, which might be your focus here.

#2 is what had me thinking. And finesse is right; it's a very old term, older perhaps than I had thought. I wonder if it was part of hobo culture. Anyway, bro has a terrible rhythm so I can't imagine writing it ever.
 
I use it all the time. I'm white. I've never even considered the negative connotations of its use... edit to say... I didn't realize this was a word white folks couldn't use... But I held a job in a manufacturing facility for much of my twenties, so i worked closely with all types of people who may have skewed my usage of it.
 
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I'll throw out a brother now and then. I'll also throw out a boy occasionally, but only with friends..
 
Anything involving brotherhood could be race-neutral. Frat Brothers. Brotherhood of male teammates.
 
What are the general guidelines for this word? Growing up, I always thought this referred to black people, and that a white person should refrain from using it. This impression was at least tacitly reinforced in NYC. But since I moved to the Midwest, I hear it a lot from white people too. And of course there's the conspiracy-theory-chic, as in "You nailed it, brother."

Now I'm wondering if there are distinctions based on specific function in a sentence. For instance, "a brother" is a black person. "Can't a brother get mythological up in this motherfucker?" is said by a black person (in this particular case, one who was desperately trying to find a post basketball career). Same with, "if a brother tell you that, it's true." So it's used somewhat abstractly. Yes? No?

White people, by contrast, use the word more particularly. When you say, "you nailed it, brother," you're addressing one person specifically. "You". In fact, it doesn't change the meaning of the sentence to rephrase as "you nailed it, my brother" so literally a single person. I mean, you can do a plural version of this but anyway. I know people use the "my brother" phrasing but it seems kind of niche.

Spanish speaking people, of course, have their own phrases in this regard and I have my doubts they say "brother." The Indian people I went to law school with were enamored of calling each other n***a because I don't fucking know why and I didn't want to ask and then finally when I did, I did not get a prepared reply, surprising given how often the question must have been asked, unless "why can't we?" was their plan, but anyway, I digress. Point is, I think it's a black and white issue mostly.

This came up for me as I was writing a bit of dialogue. Reaching for rhythm, "brother" instinctively came to mind. It wouldn't work regardless, as the characters there are women, but it did make me wonder if this is something I should know if ever I want to write fiction.

I’ll use brother occasionally…usually used with a relative or close friend.

Kind of related to the OP I guess…but I do take offense when someone addresses me as captain, chief, or ‘my guy’. All seem dismissive to me.
 
I am a 57 white, male Christian, grew up in SC, but lived in NC the last 30 years. I occasionally say "bro." I rarely say brother b/c it sounds too much like those evangelical Christians who are prone to mega-churches and unquestioned republicianism.
 
plenty of country or southern white folks call people who are not in fact their brothers or sisters "brother" or "sister."

definitely very common in the black community as well and athletes often refer to their teammates as brothers/sisters, too.

dook basketball has their whole "brotherhood" marketing gimmick.

some people will get worked up about anything but i don't think that there is anything inherently offensive or inappropriate about using brother/sister.
 
In the late 19th century many Farmer-based labor advocacy organizations, like The Farmers Alliance in NC, purposefully used brother and sister among their membership. Farmers Alliance was all white but there was also a Colored Farmers Alliance but much less is known of its history,
 
It's been a slang expression for comradery at least since the Depression as in "brother , can you spare a dime?"
This is the first thing I thought of. Always related to art or artifacts surrounding the Depression.

Regarding guidelines, it’s not a sensitive term in the least unless someone really doesn’t understand context, audience, tone and delivery, etc. Common sense, it seems to me.
 
Mormons, but especially Hulk Hogan, are going to be very upset if white people can't use "brother"
 
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