The Singles Thread

[MendotoManteo]

If there's already another, merge please. But I figure probably not.

How's the dating game out there? What you guys and gals experiencing?

Married persons are obviously welcomed, for your insight. But marriage isn't the point here. Or even being a couple. Or maybe these things are the point? Lol.

Just want a lively discussion about the dating scene. Or not. You may be someone who has sworn off such. Post here, everyone.

This is all to say there are many reasons we may be single. And many goals we have in mind as such.

 

[DiehardHeelFan]

Don’t want to hijack your thread but another side part to this can be how is dating in the age of MAGA. Not sure I’d have opposed dating a Pub say 20 years ago depending on the woman and not sure how soon I’d even ask a woman about her politics. But now it’s become pretty important to the point it’s a deal breaker. For me it’s up there with smoking ha.

 

[UNCMSinLS]

Don’t want to hijack your thread but another side part to this can be how is dating in the age of MAGA. Not sure I’d have opposed dating a Pub say 20 years ago depending on the woman and not sure how soon I’d even ask a woman about her politics. But now it’s become pretty important to the point it’s a deal breaker. For me it’s up there with smoking ha.

I heard a story on one of the storytelling shows on NPR about this. Seemed guys were trying to hide their MAGA tendencies to date non-MAGA women. The men considered MAGA women too dumb and uninteresting. Of course, when the non-MAGA women found out the true identity of the men, MAGA man was back to the drawing board.

 

[MendotoManteo]

Don’t want to hijack your thread but another side part to this can be how is dating in the age of MAGA. Not sure I’d have opposed dating a Pub say 20 years ago depending on the woman and not sure how soon I’d even ask a woman about her politics. But now it’s become pretty important to the point it’s a deal breaker. For me it’s up there with smoking ha.

As a smoker myself (Black and Milds; I'm sophisticated; lol), I appreciate this inquiry. It's a real concern. I have it kind of decent out here in coastal California, but I know back home it's quite different.

I will say, however, that gals back home don't seem as uptight. That's not a judgment on any parties. It's just an assessment.

 

[MendotoManteo]

Just booked a trip to Cartegena in June. Got a sweet AirBnB overlooking the coast.

I switch to passport mode on Tinder to there, and the booty! I tell ya! Not trying to be salacious but hey!

Anyhow, I know most of it probably fake. But I intend to find out the truth.

 

[ColdBlueSteel]

Just booked a trip to Cartegena in June. Got a sweet AirBnB overlooking the coast.

I switch to passport mode on Tinder to there, and the booty! I tell ya! Not trying to be salacious but hey!

Anyhow, I know most of it probably fake. But I intend to find out the truth.

Bro, are you experienced? Thought I read an article in the last couple years about some serious risks of that kind of tourism down there

Americans Looking for Love Are Getting Killed by Gangs in Colombia

The U.S. Embassy issued an alert after eight men died in Medellín, often after meeting women on dating apps.

www.wsj.com

 

[MendotoManteo]

Bro, are you experienced? Thought I read an article in the last couple years about some serious risks of that kind of tourism down there

Americans Looking for Love Are Getting Killed by Gangs in Colombia

The U.S. Embassy issued an alert after eight men died in Medellín, often after meeting women on dating apps.

www.wsj.com

You know what, I didn't know that! Thank you for sharing! I've booked the trip. Maybe I'll just stay off of Tinder.

I can dance well enough. And I'll learn a little Spanish in the meantime. Get me a big booty gal at the bar.

 

[hedge]

I'm asea...

 

[MendotoManteo]

Is there an AI app that works as a good, on the spot translator? I remember a commercial few months back with an American gal in Korea or somewhere like that. And she wanted the food hot but they weren't sure she knew what she was getting into (since Americans don't understand hot, spicy food). She was using some translator app, I believe.

 

[UNCatTech]

I hated being single when I was single, I couldn't imagine having to go back to that now after almost 30 years of marriage.

 

[MendotoManteo]

I hated being single when I was single, I couldn't imagine having to go back to that now after almost 30 years of marriage.

I'm actually still married but it's over. We're just too weirdos who can't sort the divorce papers out properly (still good friends) so it draws on.

Yes, being single is a weird experience. I'm not particularly interesting and don't do activities, so my thing is to go to bars or clubs. Dance around a bit (I can dance fairly well and am fairly attractive). Talk with whomever, be it just "the guys" or attractive gals. Smoke a Black and Mild. Whatever. Being 40 now, I don't stay out late enough for them to get "sloppy" so that they don't even know what the hell they're doing. Wouldn't want to do that anyhow. Wouldn't be right.

It hits Midnight now, and I'm like, holy shit! I need to get back home! Lol.

 

[TarSpiel]

My wife left me when I was 30. After I got over the initial grief and heartache, I thought, "Well, okay, I'll just go meet someone else...this could be exciting."

The overall lesson I learned through that experience is that people who are single in their 30's are single for a reason.

 

[MendotoManteo]

My wife left me when I was 30. After I got over the initial grief and heartache, I thought, "Well, okay, I'll just go meet someone else...this could be exciting."

The overall lesson I learned through that experience is that people who are single in their 30's are single for a reason.

You're not wrong. You're not right. It's complicated. There are many gals out there with children, who are decent and good. Just didn't work out for them. Probably because of their husbands.

But I know what you mean. It certainly applies to me. I'm a depressed alcoholic, and while I comport myself well, I imagine women can sniff it, so to speak. In a previous era, I would be the dude society put out on the outskirts to sift through chicken bones and intestines and what not, occasionally approaching to have their fortunes or whatever blessed or denied.

I knew I would not be a good father (for the aforementioned reasons), so I told my wife I couldn't do it. She wanted children. Not the biggest reason we split. That was my addiction, obviously. But a big reason why. I at least take solace knowing I had enough fortitude to not just haplessly bring another human being in this world.

I'm sorry about your relationship. It's hard. I enjoy your posts and hope you'll continue to search for things that give you meaning, be it women or something else.

 

[gtyellowjacket]

Is there an AI app that works as a good, on the spot translator? I remember a commercial few months back with an American gal in Korea or somewhere like that. And she wanted the food hot but they weren't sure she knew what she was getting into (since Americans don't understand hot, spicy food). She was using some translator app, I believe.

There are tons of them including just Google.

I like this one because it's pretty easy to have a conversation. Each person just puts a finger on the screen when it's their turn to talk. Talking Translator - Languages - Apps on Google Play

I haven't tried it but I think there are form factors like earbuds that are pricey but supposedly do a pretty good job. I would try these free flavors first and then maybe if you're going on a trip or something you may want to look at the premium stuff.

 

[UNCatTech]

I'm actually still married but it's over. We're just too weirdos who can't sort the divorce papers out properly (still good friends) so it draws on.

Yes, being single is a weird experience. I'm not particularly interesting and don't do activities, so my thing is to go to bars or clubs. Dance around a bit (I can dance fairly well and am fairly attractive). Talk with whomever, be it just "the guys" or attractive gals. Smoke a Black and Mild. Whatever. Being 40 now, I don't stay out late enough for them to get "sloppy" so that they don't even know what the hell they're doing. Wouldn't want to do that anyhow. Wouldn't be right.

It hits Midnight now, and I'm like, holy shit! I need to get back home! Lol.

Well, at least you're good looking. That's always a bonus when single.

 

[UNCatTech]

My wife left me when I was 30. After I got over the initial grief and heartache, I thought, "Well, okay, I'll just go meet someone else...this could be exciting."

The overall lesson I learned through that experience is that people who are single in their 30's are single for a reason.

Are you still single?

You seem like a good person to talk to.

 

[UNCatTech]

You're not wrong. You're not right. It's complicated. There are many gals out there with children, who are decent and good. Just didn't work out for them. Probably because of their husbands.

Well don't worry, JD is going to fix that by not letting them get a divorce. Just have to stay married forever.

 

[MendotoManteo]

Well, at least you're good looking. That's always a bonus when single.

Yes, it is. But also all the more frustrating. Like Tarspiel said, at some point, you just seem weird single after your 30s. I'm 40 now. So I know they think the same things. And they're not wrong, at least about me.

 

[MendotoManteo]

There are tons of them including just Google.

I like this one because it's pretty easy to have a conversation. Each person just puts a finger on the screen when it's their turn to talk. Talking Translator - Languages - Apps on Google Play

I haven't tried it but I think there are form factors like earbuds that are pricey but supposedly do a pretty good job. I would try these free flavors first and then maybe if you're going on a trip or something you may want to look at the premium stuff.

Thank you! That's great advice. I downloaded Apple Translate. Seems like there must be a speak into microphone option but I haven't figured it out. Just text. I'm admittedly very bad with technology.

What I'm looking for is an app that you can speak into and it translates.

I'm intending to go to Colombia in June, as stated above. Gals there very attractive. My Spanish very limited. I intend to learn more but will obviously just be very basic given only four to five months away.

 

[MendotoManteo]

My spot: