The minority party has never gotten what they demand in a shutdown. We knew that going in. The Dems changed the political focus though. The GOP was trying to get away with quietly gutting healthcare support (claiming they are fixing Medicaid by defunding a lot of it, discontinuing ACA subsidies, etc). Now they own it and Trump has been baited into claiming that they are going to deliver something better.
Trump and the GOP also revealed to a lot more Americans who frankly aren’t paying much attention to politics beyond the lead headline on the nightly news AT MOST (which is most Americans) that they would take hostage not just poor but working and middle class Americans to advance Trump’s agenda. SNAP and healthcare and airline shutdowns ahead of Thanksgiving got media attention beyond the political class and minority of Americans intensely following this stuff.
When the Dems started this, some sort of tactical retreat was inevitable. They got some important if more mundane concessions and will have better leverage if it comes to it in January (after the holidays) because the deal cut in the Senate (if it passes the House) funds/protects some of the pressure points used by Trump this time. Susan Collins wanted this to expire in December because she knew that Dems will feel a lot more pressure to vote for the inevitable next CR before Christmas than after.
It was no accident the original House CR was scheduled to expire just before Thanksgiving (Nov 21) — clearly the House GOP had zero intention of getting anything done by that deadline, they haven’t been in session since passing that CR (political malpractice IMO — they should have at least been feigning working on the FY26 budget in the background). But they knew the pressure to give in to the next CR would be nearly unbearable just ahead of a holiday.
Politics is a distasteful game. And it is rarely a straight line of hold your breath until you get everything you want. Negotiations and compromise (and therefore, democracy itself) are inherently messy, risking political chips for small strategic victories never makes the public happy. Most people are disgusted by watching their sausage get made.