Anybody get a Divorce because of Trump/Maga?

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Or, do you know of a couple that has split up?

Fortunately, I married an intelligent person and we see eye to eye on all of the major stuff in life - including politics. We both are appalled and disgusted with all things Trump/Maga. And off the top of my head, I can't think of any couples we know (well) who've split up or actually gotten a divorce in the past 10 years because of politics.

That said, I know there have been huge rifts amongst family members across the spectrum (mine included, my brother for one example.) The likes of which rival the days leading up to the Civil War in 1860, where brother fought brother; father vs. son; uncle fought nephew; neighbor vs. neighbor. I truly believe that if the civil war the right-wing nutjobs have been pushing for ever came to be, the exact same thing would happen today. Americans would take up arms against their own brothers, just like in the 1860's.

But that's the extreme. I'm asking about married couples not getting along on "party lines"... to the extent of getting a divorce.

I recall our old neighbors voted completely differently from each other. (And they were indeed "old" when we bought our current house 30 years ago, they've since passed away.) "Martha" often said she took great pleasure in knowing her vote cancelled out her husband's. Hahaha!

But I'm just wondering how that might work out today. I mean, back then, the wife voting for a different candidate for Mayor than their husband might vote seems rather quaint and a simple topic of discussion over the dinner table. Now? Maybe it's grounds for divorce.

My guess is that if politics got in the way of the marriage, that marriage wasn't very strong and was headed down the tubes anyway, sooner or later.
 
My wife and I are both former Republicans who grew up in staunchly conservative upbringings. Mine was in the "small town, rural, heavily Southern Baptist in a family where no one had ever made it past high school" type of conservatism, and hers was the "from a highly educated family from the Midwest with strong conservative values and her father having been a highly successful corporate businessman who then got into state politics and at one point had the *most* conservative scorecard in the NC senate" type of country-club conservatism. We met in college and both voted for Romney over Obama in our first elections where we were eligible to vote. I then voted for Trump in 2016 whereas she voted for Hillary, which to this day remains a point of contention when discussing politics.

We don't necessarily always agree on each and every single political or ideological point-by-point, but we fully agree on matters of decency and humanity and therefore revile what our former party has become over the last decade. We financially support Democratic candidates and anti-Trump Republican ones.
 
I just don't see how it would work now. When it comes down to it, there would be a huge schism in basic values that would create a lot of arguments and distrust. At least with family members you can just kind of "agree to disagree" and have a boundary of not talking about politics, but that would be much more difficult with a daily partnership.
 
CFordUNC said:
My wife and I are both former Republicans who grew up in staunchly conservative upbringings. Mine was in the "small town, rural, heavily Southern Baptist in a family where no one had ever made it past high school" type of conservatism, and hers was the "from a highly educated family from the Midwest with strong conservative values and her father having been a highly successful corporate businessman who then got into state politics and at one point had the *most* conservative scorecard in the NC senate" type of country-club conservatism. We met in college and both voted for Romney over Obama in our first elections where we were eligible to vote. I then voted for Trump in 2016 whereas she voted for Hillary, which to this day remains a point of contention when discussing politics.

We don't necessarily always agree on each and every single political or ideological point-by-point, but we fully agree on matters of decency and humanity and therefore revile what our former party has become over the last decade. We financially support Democratic candidates and anti-Trump Republican ones.
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So, just like UNC has current bragging rights over d00k given the wins @d00k on K’s celebratory farewell night and in the Final Four, your wife has voting bragging rights.

d00k could wrest those bragging rights in many ways; you? Doubtful.
 
I know a couple where the husband supported Trump and the wife didn't. Not sure if he has turned on Trump or not. I feel with Trump it's more about political differences, though, and about simple human decency and the basic difference in right and wrong. Not sure how they could do it if he still supports Trump.
 
Zoo_View said:
So, just like UNC has current bragging rights over d00k given the wins @d00k on K’s celebratory farewell night and in the Final Four, your wife has voting bragging rights.

d00k could wrest those bragging rights in many ways; you? Doubtful.
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She does indeed. That vote in 2016 is not something I’ll probably ever fully be able to live down, nor should I be able. There has to be accountability. Thankfully I saw the light relatively quickly after but certainly not proud of the part I played in bringing this whole mess up upon our country a decade ago
 
CarolinaFever said:
I know a couple where the husband supported Trump and the wife didn't. Not sure if he has turned on Trump or not. I feel with Trump it's more about political differences, though, and about simple human decency and the basic difference in right and wrong. Not sure how they could do it if he still supports Trump.
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For some reason I question woman who support him even more than the men.
 
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My wife and I are both liberal and see eye to eye on most political issues.

She definitely doesn’t follow politics as closely as I do and doesn’t get very emotionally invested in it (yeah yeah, privileged to have the luxury of not caring in the first place, I get it). To be honest I’ve become pretty grateful for that in the Trump era lol. Politics seem much more pervasive in day to day life, at least from my perspective, so it’s nice to have someone to balance that out a bit. She also does a better job of navigating interactions with our conservative family members. If it weren’t for her I probably wouldn’t talk at all to some of them lol.
 
I think you have to remember that tens of millions of adult Americans - maybe even as many as a majority of them - are barely political at all; they may just have vague thoughts about that government and the problems that it has. Political discussion does seem more omnipresent now than tit ever was before as the boundaries between political and cultural issues have blurred and social media has made it harder to be truly "apolitical." Like others here I can't really imagine being married to, or in a long-term relationship with, someone with strongly divergent political values, but I'm also probably a lot more attuned to political issues in general than the vast majority of people in the country. Certainly those of us sickos posting on "ZZL Politics" are not a representative sample of Americans generally when it comes to caring about politics.

After my (very liberal) mom died, my dad got remarried to someone who has different political values (though I don't think she really cares all that much about politics generally). That's definitely been a source of a little bit of tension between my dad and my siblings and me.
 
My fiancée and I have only found each other within the last five years. And she was one of those people who didn't follow or care about politics. She would always vote the way her mother told her to vote, which means she voted Trump.

I did not tell her which way to vote during the last election cycle, I simply impressed upon her the importance of voting and educating herself on the issues. Same as her son, who was able to vote for the first time. Suffice it to say both are STRONG dems who are repulsed by Trump and the current Trumplican Party.

If she had sided with this current administration we would not be together.
 
My wife grew up in a much more conservative home than I did. Before Trump she voted 100% Republican, and while I didn’t consider myself a Democrat, I probably voted Dem about 75% of the time. We disagreed about a lot of issues, but it wasn’t enough that it was a problem ever.

Neither of us have voted Pub for anything since 2014. She recognized what a cancer Trump was and how it has destroyed what she used to support.
 
CarolinaFever said:
I know a couple where the husband supported Trump and the wife didn't. Not sure if he has turned on Trump or not. I feel with Trump it's more about political differences, though, and about simple human decency and the basic difference in right and wrong. Not sure how they could do it if he still supports Trump.
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A true MAGA woman only wants a trump man
The MAGA man who chooses and independent/indifferent woman probably could only end up with the type of woman who won't question the man or are in it for different reasons.

Politics not that tough disagree on, but MAGA values....way too difficult to disagree on if you are true partners.
 
CFordUNC said:
My wife and I are both former Republicans who grew up in staunchly conservative upbringings. Mine was in the "small town, rural, heavily Southern Baptist in a family where no one had ever made it past high school" type of conservatism, and hers was the "from a highly educated family from the Midwest with strong conservative values and her father having been a highly successful corporate businessman who then got into state politics and at one point had the *most* conservative scorecard in the NC senate" type of country-club conservatism. We met in college and both voted for Romney over Obama in our first elections where we were eligible to vote. I then voted for Trump in 2016 whereas she voted for Hillary, which to this day remains a point of contention when discussing politics.

We don't necessarily always agree on each and every single political or ideological point-by-point, but we fully agree on matters of decency and humanity and therefore revile what our former party has become over the last decade. We financially support Democratic candidates and anti-Trump Republican ones.
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Same story. My wife and I voted for McCain and Romney in college, but we did both vote for Hillary in 2016 :p

We’ve since attended No King rallies, donated to local democratic campaigns, and helped to support families with young children in Gaza.

I feel like my values really haven’t changed that much, but due to the continual rightward shift I can’t in good conscience support any Republican at this point.
 
thebruinbleedstarheelblue said:
A true MAGA woman only wants a trump man
The MAGA man who chooses and independent/indifferent woman probably could only end up with the type of woman who won't question the man or are in it for different reasons.

Politics not that tough disagree on, but MAGA values....way too difficult to disagree on if you are true partners.
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I don't get it, but they have been together since high school. They are in their 50s now. Maybe they just don't talk about politics.
 
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