Lost my Dad last night

milom98

milom98

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Wasn't unexpected because he's been on a decline for a while now but there's still no way to prepare yourself for something like it. He's going to be a huge loss for our family. Him and my Mom were married for 60 years this year and she is going to be completely lost without him. She's not in good health, so it's probably going to be a short grieving period and then focusing on her well being.

We couldn't talk politics but I'd give anything to argue with him about it this morning.

You don't think about the true meaning of never until something like this happens and then it hits you like a ton of bricks.

Thanks for letting me express myself here.
 
milom98 said:
Wasn't unexpected because he's been on a decline for a while now but there's still no way to prepare yourself for something like it. He's going to be a huge loss for our family. Him and my Mom were married for 60 years this year and she is going to be completely lost without him. She's not in good health, so it's probably going to be a short grieving period and then focusing on her well being.

We couldn't talk politics but I'd give anything to argue with him about it this morning.

You don't think about the true meaning of never until something like this happens and then it hits you like a ton of bricks.

Thanks for letting me express myself here.
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So sorry to hear. I lost my dad 2 1/2 years ago. He had declined a lot, especially after my mom passed. It was his time which made it a little easier. Still, I miss talking to him and going to their house.
 
My heart goes out to you-its been 10 years for me-and I have fond memories practically every day I am sure you will also.
Fortunately for me and mom I retired somewhat early and was able to "help out" Once he was gone my mom leaned a lot on her Catholic faith as she lived alone-all the way to the end (94)
 
milom98 said:
Wasn't unexpected because he's been on a decline for a while now but there's still no way to prepare yourself for something like it. He's going to be a huge loss for our family. Him and my Mom were married for 60 years this year and she is going to be completely lost without him. She's not in good health, so it's probably going to be a short grieving period and then focusing on her well being.

We couldn't talk politics but I'd give anything to argue with him about it this morning.

You don't think about the true meaning of never until something like this happens and then it hits you like a ton of bricks.

Thanks for letting me express myself here.
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So sorry for your loss. I know it's coming for me at some point and just know I'm going to have a rough time with it.
 
milom98 said:
Wasn't unexpected because he's been on a decline for a while now but there's still no way to prepare yourself for something like it. He's going to be a huge loss for our family. Him and my Mom were married for 60 years this year and she is going to be completely lost without him. She's not in good health, so it's probably going to be a short grieving period and then focusing on her well being.

We couldn't talk politics but I'd give anything to argue with him about it this morning.

You don't think about the true meaning of never until something like this happens and then it hits you like a ton of bricks.

Thanks for letting me express myself here.
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So sorry to hear this, Milom. It sounds like he is at peace and I hope that helps you find some peace as you deal with this incredibly difficult moment in your life. Your are in my thoughts.
 
So sorry to hear that. I lost my dad, wow, 28 years ago now, and not a day goes by that I don’t think of him or wish he were around to talk about something.

No matter a parent’s age or health, the loss is still a lot to deal with emotionally and frankly the weird stress of the memorial planning can be both frustrating but sort of a welcome distraction (depending on the financial stress associated).

Be there for your mom but remember to grant yourself grace to grieve in your own way.
 
milom98 said:
Wasn't unexpected because he's been on a decline for a while now but there's still no way to prepare yourself for something like it. He's going to be a huge loss for our family. Him and my Mom were married for 60 years this year and she is going to be completely lost without him. She's not in good health, so it's probably going to be a short grieving period and then focusing on her well being.

We couldn't talk politics but I'd give anything to argue with him about it this morning.

You don't think about the true meaning of never until something like this happens and then it hits you like a ton of bricks.

Thanks for letting me express myself here.
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And even though I couldn’t stand Charlie Kirk you have to remember he has a family that is feeling the same way you are about your father. Death sucks.
 
milom98 said:
Wasn't unexpected because he's been on a decline for a while now but there's still no way to prepare yourself for something like it. He's going to be a huge loss for our family. Him and my Mom were married for 60 years this year and she is going to be completely lost without him. She's not in good health, so it's probably going to be a short grieving period and then focusing on her well being.

We couldn't talk politics but I'd give anything to argue with him about it this morning.

You don't think about the true meaning of never until something like this happens and then it hits you like a ton of bricks.

Thanks for letting me express myself here.
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So sorry for your loss, Milom.
 
I'm sorry for your loss, milom.

I hope you are able to grieve well and remember the good times with your dad. And that you're able to do so while supporting your mom, as well.
 
My sincere condolences. It’s a tough thing no matter what the circumstances.

Both of my parents passed back in 2020. I think about them everyday and it still feels strange to me that they aren’t here.
 
Laughter is important, funny memories and warm ones. Good music you shared.

Celebration and gratitude is an important part of grieving. Those things keep you afloat.

And another thing that can help is to keep in mind and really acknowledge that many others are going through the exact same thing right now, and countless others have been through it before now. Helps you to feel less on an island with it all.
 
Sincerest condolences. Lost my own father going on 18 years now. It was a kick in the head when it happened, even though we knew it was coming. Lost my mom in January of 24, also another kick in the head. Be there for your mom as she'll need you in the coming months, and take care of yourself as well!
 
Sorry for your loss. And for that of your Mom. Hope you got to spend some time with him in the days before he passed. May his memory be a blessing to you.
 
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