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Update: So my dad did turn down the operation. I didn't want to start a new thread, so I'm repurposing this one.
But he's really not doing well. I really doubt that he makes it to Thanksgiving.
My wife and daughter left to go to their house this evening. I'm going to wrap some things up at work and probably go up Thursday night, if I don't have to go earlier.
I'm at a weird place right now. My wife and I were talking about it last evening. I don't know how to deal with this. I don't have any answers for what my mother is going to do after he dies. They were never planners, and he was too stubborn to ever listen to advise about retirement or death. I'm worried how my crazy brother, his crazy wife, and their crazy daughter are going to react. Especially since my wife and I have advised my mother to sell the house after he dies. She cannot afford to live in that house. She can't maintain it. But he doesn't understand.
I'm sort of torn. I'm sad that he is close to death, but I also know that it is probably the best thing considering his health, quality of life, and very limited finances. I feel bad for even thinking about it in those terms, but it is reality.
But he's really not doing well. I really doubt that he makes it to Thanksgiving.
My wife and daughter left to go to their house this evening. I'm going to wrap some things up at work and probably go up Thursday night, if I don't have to go earlier.
I'm at a weird place right now. My wife and I were talking about it last evening. I don't know how to deal with this. I don't have any answers for what my mother is going to do after he dies. They were never planners, and he was too stubborn to ever listen to advise about retirement or death. I'm worried how my crazy brother, his crazy wife, and their crazy daughter are going to react. Especially since my wife and I have advised my mother to sell the house after he dies. She cannot afford to live in that house. She can't maintain it. But he doesn't understand.
I'm sort of torn. I'm sad that he is close to death, but I also know that it is probably the best thing considering his health, quality of life, and very limited finances. I feel bad for even thinking about it in those terms, but it is reality.
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