The Singles Thread

MendotoManteo said:
Oh, Diehard, you never answered my question about age gaps. Let me rephrase. What do you consider a large age gap?
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Keeping to a 20 year gap. Think once you start crossing that threshold it can be a little too much. A 20 year difference might seem extreme to some but also think it depends on the people. Also depends heavily on the age of the couple. Someone 40 dating someone 20? Ummm, no. But I think once into the 30’s it seems a little more acceptable for the most part and again depends on the couple and where each are in their life. Plus it’s not about seeking out someone younger. If it happens to happens.
 
DiehardHeelFan said:
Keeping to a 20 year gap. Think once you start crossing that threshold it can be a little too much. A 20 year difference might seem extreme to some but also think it depends on the people. Also depends heavily on the age of the couple. Someone 40 dating someone 20? Ummm, no. But I think once into the 30’s it seems a little more acceptable for the most part and again depends on the couple and where each are in their life. Plus it’s not about seeking out someone younger. If it happens to happens.
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This is a very thoughtful response. I won't go into specifics but, as an attractive 40 year old man now...well, I look for certain things. I agree though that a relationship between a 40 and 20 year old would never work. There's just too much cultural difference, too much financial and power difference, etc. But with some age for both, who knows? You're right. It is case specific. We judge things generally but that's not how things actually work. If it works for some, then so be it.

That being said, I do not seek a relationship with women 20 years younger than me. And I always make that clear. I seek actual relationships with women only 10 years or so younger. And within that age range.
 
My wife’s Ex is 75. His Phillipino wife (met online) is 26. Another friend of mine who is 66 has a 29 yo Phillipino wife. (What is it about The Phillipines? ) But both men have serious “issues” and these are the only females they could attract to marry them.
 
Mendo, I wouldn't worry about tariffs causing any animosity from Colombians. They have enough of their own political strife internally. There are also militias still deep in the forests.

I don't know what American goods they buy, but stores and street vendors are full of counterfeit Nike gear and shoes, or clearance or stolen merchandise. They do have a ton of coffee bean fields and am sure they ship a lot to us. And cigars.

If you are there spending money in their awful economy you are welcome (just don't flash money.) Also, even though the dollar is down, it is up near a recent high to Colombian peso.

I would be more concerned about Trump's TSA when you come back, even as a citizen.
 
Kingpin said:
My wife’s Ex is 75. His Phillipino wife (met online) is 26. Another friend of mine who is 66 has a 29 yo Phillipino wife. (What is it about The Phillipines? ) But both men have serious “issues” and these are the only females they could attract to marry them.
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Money and status. Nothing more.
 
Kraftyheel89 said:
Mendo, I wouldn't worry about tariffs causing any animosity from Colombians. They have enough of their own political strife internally. There are also militias still deep in the forests.

I don't know what American goods they buy, but stores and street vendors are full of counterfeit Nike gear and shoes, or clearance or stolen merchandise. They do have a ton of coffee bean fields and am sure they ship a lot to us. And cigars.

If you are there spending money in their awful economy you are welcome (just don't flash money.) Also, even though the dollar is down, it is up near a recent high to Colombian peso.

I would be more concerned about Trump's TSA when you come back, even as a citizen.
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Thank you, Krafty.

Everything seems to be about money transactions. Yes, it should be okay.
 
Kingpin said:
My wife’s Ex is 75. His Phillipino wife (met online) is 26. Another friend of mine who is 66 has a 29 yo Phillipino wife. (What is it about The Phillipines? ) But both men have serious “issues” and these are the only females they could attract to marry them.
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The Philippines...

- America took over the country in the late 1800s, so a good number of the populace speaks English.
- Due to Spanish (before the US) and US colonization, the country is largely Christian (Catholic).
- Due to the Catholic influence in the country, traditional gender roles are still largely expected in Filipino culture.
- And uneven (but growing) economy leaves a good percentage of the population in or near poverty levels.

If you're an American guy looking for an traditional Asian wife who doesn't want to have to deal with significant language or religious issues, the Philippines is an obvious choice. This has led to an active "market" of Filipinas who are looking for western husbands for a better life outside the country.
 
SnoopRob said:
The Philippines...

- America took over the country in the late 1800s, so a good number of the populace speaks English.
- Due to Spanish (before the US) and US colonization, the country is largely Christian (Catholic).
- Due to the Catholic influence in the country, traditional gender roles are still largely expected in Filipino culture.
- And uneven (but growing) economy leaves a good percentage of the population in or near poverty levels.

If you're an American guy looking for a traditional Asian wife who doesn't want to have to deal with significant language or religious issues, the Philippines is an obvious choice. This has led to an active "market" of Filipinas who are looking for western husbands for a better life outside the country.
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Thanks. In theses cases, they simply have to wait for the men to die then get SS benefits and other assets with many decades ahead of them. It’s certainly not based on the guys looks. Thats my guess and consistent with what you said.
 
Kingpin said:
Thanks. In theses cases, they simply have to wait for the men to die then get SS benefits and other assets with many decades ahead of them. It’s certainly not based on the guys looks. Thats my guess and consistent with what you said.
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They can get a much better (economic) life while married to the guy plus what they can get after the dude's death.

And, if they're lucky, they can sometimes bring family members over once they have citizenship, so it's a way to pull up more than just themselves in their extended family.

But, yeah, it's certainly an economic transaction however the folks involved frame it.
 
I was very unattractive as a boy. "Husky boy with a bowl cut," is how I describe myself. And it's stuck with me. I went to the bar last night. Fortunately, I was not ran out for talking to younger women. But saw several guys there who were so less attractive than me but with beautiful women. I've always wanted to be the guy with a beautiful woman. Obviously something is wrong with me. I'm not funny. And don't jump out of an airplane or go rock climbing. I'm just a guy.

Whatever the case, I think I will likely cancel my Colombian trip. There's nothing to be gained by it. Say I go there and my wildest dreams come true. Great! But then what? Come back to this? Most likely I go there and nothing happens, and then I really find out I'm a loser. It just doesn't seem worth it. Save some money, especially since we're going to need to do so soon.
 
Out here in California, you've got to have the best. You've got to have a nice vehicle. You've got to have a nice house or at least a nice apartment. You've got to constantly be funny and interesting.

It's lowdown and dirty.
 
DiehardHeelFan said:
Keeping to a 20 year gap. Think once you start crossing that threshold it can be a little too much. A 20 year difference might seem extreme to some but also think it depends on the people. Also depends heavily on the age of the couple. Someone 40 dating someone 20? Ummm, no. But I think once into the 30’s it seems a little more acceptable for the most part and again depends on the couple and where each are in their life. Plus it’s not about seeking out someone younger. If it happens to happens.
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Age is relative.

20 years if one is 35, is unacceptable.
20 years when one is 41, could be ok, but either the older person is not mature or the younger is very mature.
Through middle age 20 becomes less problematic.
But, once the older reaches 60 it's all downhill. What 40 years old wants a retired partner who is starting to lose stamina and isn't able to physically keep up. And it's only going to get worse, when the older is 80... (In most cases, I'm sure there are some retires that can keep up with their partner who is 20 years their junior).

I've known 4 married couples that had around 20 years difference in age, 3 of the 4 ended up divorced when the younger was around 40, the other was on the verge of divorce, but the older person was diagnosed with cancer, in my opinion, the younger person stayed around and took care for the insurance money. The older person died at age 64, the younger was 45 and now had a lot of money. Life was great, except for this person was crazy and money didn't help.
 
MendotoManteo said:
I was very unattractive as a boy. "Husky boy with a bowl cut," is how I describe myself. And it's stuck with me. I went to the bar last night. Fortunately, I was not ran out for talking to younger women. But saw several guys there who were so less attractive than me but with beautiful women. I've always wanted to be the guy with a beautiful woman. Obviously something is wrong with me. I'm not funny. And don't jump out of an airplane or go rock climbing. I'm just a guy.

Whatever the case, I think I will likely cancel my Colombian trip. There's nothing to be gained by it. Say I go there and my wildest dreams come true. Great! But then what? Come back to this? Most likely I go there and nothing happens, and then I really find out I'm a loser. It just doesn't seem worth it. Save some money, especially since we're going to need to do so soon.
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Dude, you will never be able to achieve your goals if you keep with the self-loathing. You are not a loser. Look at your qualities, work on yourself some, bring up that confidence. Then seek places where the women will have similar interest.
Bars really aren't the best place to meet people.
 
UNCatTech said:
Age is relative.

20 years if one is 35, is unacceptable.
20 years when one is 41, could be ok, but either the older person is not mature or the younger is very mature.
Through middle age 20 becomes less problematic.
But, once the older reaches 60 it's all downhill. What 40 years old wants a retired partner who is starting to lose stamina and isn't able to physically keep up. And it's only going to get worse, when the older is 80... (In most cases, I'm sure there are some retires that can keep up with their partner who is 20 years their junior).

I've known 4 married couples that had around 20 years difference in age, 3 of the 4 ended up divorced when the younger was around 40, the other was on the verge of divorce, but the older person was diagnosed with cancer, in my opinion, the younger person stayed around and took care for the insurance money. The older person died at age 64, the younger was 45 and now had a lot of money. Life was great, except for this person was crazy and money didn't help.
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Age is relative and each couple is different. I used 20 years as max. I know several couples who have an -15 year gap and are fine. If a couple is happy, they’re happy 😀 But understand your point.
 
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