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The above posts remind me of what I have seen with respect to the misperceptions of people from small towns/rural communities regarding crime/safety in bigger cities.
I remember a friend of mine, who lived a few blocks from where I used to live in Charlotte, dated a guy who lived in a small town in a neighboring county. He told my friend how afraid he was for his safety when he came to her condo. He was always looking over his shoulder when he walked between his car and her condo. We laughed at that, as we viewed our neighborhood as being very safe and had no problem walking around it any time of day or night.
I once dated a woman from a small town about a 45-minute drive from Charlotte. When she decided to move from that town to Charlotte, her mom became very concerned for her safety. She thought she would be under constant attack from criminals. This person is the first person I had any kind of personal relationship with (be it friend, family, or a dating relationship) who had a handgun in their house. Before that, outside of my clients (people accused of crimes), I didn’t personally know anyone who owned a gun for protection. But when she moved to Charlotte her mom told her she would need to keep a gun handy in her home and know how to use it. (She never had to.)
And it’s not just people from smaller towns, but people in certain neighborhoods in cities who consume a great deal of right wing media. I have a good friend who grew up in a very nice neighborhood in Charlotte. When he became an adult and started living on his own (we were roommates in two different places in Charlotte), his mother was always worried that where he was living wasn’t safe. She basically though any part of town outside of her bubble (and maybe outside of most of southeast Charlotte) was unsafe. Then he moved to San Francisco about 20 years ago. When he recently came back home for the holidays, his extended family members/family friends— who consume a lot of right wing media— thought he was coming back from some horrible hellscape. They couldn’t believe he was surviving it. I went out to visit him in SF a few months ago. It certainly wasn’t anything close to a hellscape.
I remember a friend of mine, who lived a few blocks from where I used to live in Charlotte, dated a guy who lived in a small town in a neighboring county. He told my friend how afraid he was for his safety when he came to her condo. He was always looking over his shoulder when he walked between his car and her condo. We laughed at that, as we viewed our neighborhood as being very safe and had no problem walking around it any time of day or night.
I once dated a woman from a small town about a 45-minute drive from Charlotte. When she decided to move from that town to Charlotte, her mom became very concerned for her safety. She thought she would be under constant attack from criminals. This person is the first person I had any kind of personal relationship with (be it friend, family, or a dating relationship) who had a handgun in their house. Before that, outside of my clients (people accused of crimes), I didn’t personally know anyone who owned a gun for protection. But when she moved to Charlotte her mom told her she would need to keep a gun handy in her home and know how to use it. (She never had to.)
And it’s not just people from smaller towns, but people in certain neighborhoods in cities who consume a great deal of right wing media. I have a good friend who grew up in a very nice neighborhood in Charlotte. When he became an adult and started living on his own (we were roommates in two different places in Charlotte), his mother was always worried that where he was living wasn’t safe. She basically though any part of town outside of her bubble (and maybe outside of most of southeast Charlotte) was unsafe. Then he moved to San Francisco about 20 years ago. When he recently came back home for the holidays, his extended family members/family friends— who consume a lot of right wing media— thought he was coming back from some horrible hellscape. They couldn’t believe he was surviving it. I went out to visit him in SF a few months ago. It certainly wasn’t anything close to a hellscape.