Mental health...

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UNCatTech said:
Really struggling with something right now and it's something I just can't share. Life can be hard at times.
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Man, I’m just so sorry for whatever you are going through. Just know that we love you, we are here for you, and anything that we can do for you to help, just say the word. So grateful that you are part of this community- it would not be the same without you!
 
I have an overwhelming feeling of sadness today.

I talked to my oldest daughter about the situation with my wife and I yesterday, she started crying, which is tough for me.

Today I can't seem to shake this feeling that it just isn't going to work and I'm going to end up divorced. I even googled and found a counselor in my area that takes my insurance. I'm going to try to get an appointment next week.

Also, we have found a wholistic diagnostic clinic for my middle daughter, she goes in for her first session in a couple of weeks. I was surprised how reasonable the price is. Of course it isn't covered under her insurance. But we are fortunate enough to be able to make it happen. I really hope that we can finally get a complete diagnosis and help her to have a better future. Honestly the ups and downs are a really emotional hurt.
 
UNCatTech said:
I have an overwhelming feeling of sadness today.

I talked to my oldest daughter about the situation with my wife and I yesterday, she started crying, which is tough for me.

Today I can't seem to shake this feeling that it just isn't going to work and I'm going to end up divorced. I even googled and found a counselor in my area that takes my insurance. I'm going to try to get an appointment next week.

Also, we have found a wholistic diagnostic clinic for my middle daughter, she goes in for her first session in a couple of weeks. I was surprised how reasonable the price is. Of course it isn't covered under her insurance. But we are fortunate enough to be able to make it happen. I really hope that we can finally get a complete diagnosis and help her to have a better future. Honestly the ups and downs are a really emotional hurt.
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Damn, Tech…….your world seems to be frequent chaos.

I wish you and yours the best.
 
I think you live in the Atlanta area and maybe have had contact with this organization. If you have not connected with a family support group, then I recommend checking out the NAMI organization. Psychotherapy and psychiatric treatments are important, no doubt, but a family support group can provide your family understanding and comfort with a focus on family struggles and the emotional needs so many families like yours share.


We have communicated from time to time over the years. The stress that you and your wife have experienced over the years has been so painful, and I have deeply admired your willingness and capacity to endure and never give up on your daughter. As you know, I have worked with families in your situation and understand the toll it takes on them. Connecting with other families who have been going through what you are now may be a validating and supportive experience.

My heart has been with you and is with you now. Message me anytime 🙏
 
UNCatTech said:
It feels that way sometimes.

This past year, since my dad died, has been a really challenge in so many areas.
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These are the types of events that really stress a marriage. It might seem like you can't make it work, but that doesn't mean it's true. I mean, it might be -- I have no idea. But the time to assess that probably isn't with all this other stuff in your life. Counseling is a good idea.

You wouldn't want to judge a basketball offense the day after it shot 1-22 from 3 point range. The offense might not be great even at 9-22, but in that case a sober assessment can be made.
 
SnoopRob said:
Dang, atTech, I'm sorry to hear things are this rough but glad that it looks like things may be alright.

If there's anything you and your family need, I'm sure this board would be glad to help, if we can, just let us know.
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My family has recieved so much help from the IC, and now ZZL, community, I'm eternally grateful.

I'm greatly to have a place to vent and discuss issues where I know it is safe.
 
UNCatTech said:
My family has recieved so much help from the IC, and now ZZL, community, I'm eternally grateful.

I'm greatly to have a place to vent and discuss issues where I know it is safe.
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Big hugs to you, Tech!

As others have said, such times really stress marriages. Keep hanging in and on.
 
Zoo_View said:
Big hugs to you, Tech!

As others have said, such times really stress marriages. Keep hanging in and on.
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I really want to stay married. I live my wife and she has helped me in many ways.
I hope we can figure out how to make it work.

She was gone all weekend and I let myself get to into my own head. I've just got to figure it out how to make it work.
 
UNCatTech said:
I really want to stay married. I live my wife and she has helped me in many ways.
I hope we can figure out how to make it work.

She was gone all weekend and I let myself get to into my own head. I've just got to figure it out how to make it work.
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Send me a DM when you’re all alone on a weekend.

I’ll come down and do yeoman’s yard work for the weekend.
 
UNCatTech said:
I have an overwhelming feeling of sadness today.

I talked to my oldest daughter about the situation with my wife and I yesterday, she started crying, which is tough for me.

Today I can't seem to shake this feeling that it just isn't going to work and I'm going to end up divorced. I even googled and found a counselor in my area that takes my insurance. I'm going to try to get an appointment next week.

Also, we have found a wholistic diagnostic clinic for my middle daughter, she goes in for her first session in a couple of weeks. I was surprised how reasonable the price is. Of course it isn't covered under her insurance. But we are fortunate enough to be able to make it happen. I really hope that we can finally get a complete diagnosis and help her to have a better future. Honestly the ups and downs are a really emotional hurt.
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Hang in there. My wife and I have endured struggles that, at the time, I thought would certainly end things and we got through them. I am pulling for you. Take care.
 
Where does one find hope in a hopeless situation? When you know that what you want has no possibility of being reality?
 
UNCatTech said:
Where does one find hope in a hopeless situation? When you know that what you want has no possibility of being reality?
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I think maybe you find solace. At least that's what I try to do. Admittedly, my battles are far less challenging than your own. I try to find other things that might not replace the thing I hope for but at least somewhat distract me from its absence.
 
When I've felt that way, I did my best to separate the hopeless from the necessary and take what satisfaction I could in doing the best I could for me and mine. It's a cold lonely place to be sometimes but- tomorrow could be better.

The hopeless situation isn't going away. You'll have to either find a way to live with it or accept that you have to walk away. I have no clue what's right for you. I hate that you're feeling this way. All I've ever known to do in the worst times, is just to keep waking up and facing the day. I did a miserable job a lot of times but I kept trying. It sure does suck sometimes , though.
 
UNCatTech said:
It feels that way sometimes.

This past year, since my dad died, has been a really challenge in so many areas.
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This has nothing to do with religion because I'm an agnostic... however I've always felt that sometimes the strongest of us, more often than not, wind up shouldering the heaviest burdens. Not because we have to but because we can. There is strength in you that you don't even know you have.

You're loved, thought about and valued more than you realize. Not just here, but by the people who matter the most. Remember that.
 
43 years with my wife the last 2 we’ve been doing this LAT (living alone together) thing and it’s been a great break for us. There’s no third parties involved but we just needed a break from our routine of 4 decades.
Come to find out that this LAT is a popular thing with us older folks. As Studs Terkel said “Tough times don’t last but tough people do!”
Of course all relationships are hard especially the longest ones. That said my buddy who lives on the Haw River always said “If you can’t get along then move along. Life is really to short!”
Good luck with your journey and I will keep you in my thoughts.
 
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