OGtruthhurts on tough love & parenting

[finesse]

Could it be that he is back as Ramrouser?

No. He was a bit of a contrarian but he was pretty intelligent.

 

[05C40]

With all due respect to both my mom and my late father, my goal is to parent pretty much the exact opposite way as them. I've got a 2 year old son and another one on the way at the end of this month so I think about this stuff often. I got my ass kicked growing up. I got beaten with a belt. I got household objects thrown at me. I got screamed at, yelled at, smacked in the head and face. Got my mouth washed out with literal soap. That cycle ends with me. I don't believe that hitting children, or yelling at them, or ranting and raving at them, or throwing things at them does anything other than yield a higher likelihood of breeding future violent, angry, insecure, hot-tempered, quick-triggered adults.

I don't mean to be a Debbie Downer, but what you aspire to in raising your children is pretty much how I was raised. So despite your best efforts, your child could still turn out to be a sad sack like me.

 

[UNCatTech]

I don't mean to be a Debbie Downer, but what you aspire to in raising your children is pretty much how I was raised. So despite your best efforts, your child could still turn out to be a sad sack like me.

You're pretty successful.

While our childhood plays a role, we can still do pretty well. Look at me, I had a pretty screwed up story until around 27, but I've done so much better in the 30 years since.

Though I do still have so many unanswered questions. Most of which I'm trying to accept will never be answered.