Believe it or not, I never had any of those in my later years except the increased tolerance after my very early 20s. I never binge drank. I never missed work or family stuff. I generally quit drinking an hour or so before I went to bed. Even after 30 years, there was a point that I reached that, even if I had just poured a fresh drink, that I would stop drinking and put it in the fridge or freezer. Don't ask about the crazy shit I did in the early 70s. Not sure self medication and drug abuse are exactly the same issue although hard to separate.
Might just be how I'm wired. I quit smoking cold turkey after 20+ years of 2-3 packs a day. I did have physical and mental issues for a while with that one. It took two tries but I quit amphetamines the same way back in the 70s.
I definitely have or have had abuse issues but unlike a lot of my friends, I don't think I ever so much lost control as much as I didn't exercise any. For example, my BiL absolutely could not drink and it essentially killed him.