With our boy, now 17, we completely banned social media except for discord, which he uses when he’s gaming and we’re usually in the room. He has no desire to be on TT or IG, and doesn’t feel the need to knuckle on peer pressure. He plays a lot of the standard stuff (Roblox, Skyrim, etc) and we let him make those choices after discussion. We talk to him a lot and we’re lucky that he’s never felt the need to pull far away.
But I really think social media is a plague and super destructive for kids’ well being.
We also talk a lot about politics and treat him like an adult, soliciting his opinion and letting him challenge us as well as challenging him.